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Disclaimer

Information provided is this libguide is simply to inform individuals and should not be misconstrued as counsel or complete facts or data on this subject.  If you feel you are being bullied for any reason, please talk with a parent, teacher, counselor, trusted adult, school resource officer or administrator.  Thank you!

Warning Signs

While one person's reaction to bullying can be different from another person's, there are certain behaviors to watch for to let parents, educators, and peers know when someone could be being bullied:

  • Not wanting to go to places (i.e. school, practice, etc.)
  • Change in school performance, usually drop in grades
  • Missing or damaged belongings, usually don't have a logical explanation for how they became lost or damaged
  • Takes an "illogical" way home
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Complains frequently of physical ailments
  • Loss of appetite
  • Depression, mood changes, anxiety, low self-esteem
  • Unexplained injuries
  • Being intentially excluded from a group

This is not an all encompassing list.  If you have questions or concerns, please contact your child's school counselor or one of the administrators.

Profile of a Bully

Bullies do what they do for various reasons, but researchers are finding that most bullies have certain traits in common:

  • Seek power and exert that power or control over others
  • Lack empathy for others
  • Are easily pressured by peers
  • Insecure but are overly concerned about their popularity
  • Overly aggressive
  • Rarely takes responsibility for their actions, often blaming others
  • Has the need to win or always take first

These traits alone do not make a bully.  Often times, bullies learn these behaviors from their environment creating a vicious cycle. 

Bullying

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Bullying Defined

Definitions of bullying vary widely; however, most definitions include the following elements:

  1. Intent to cause harm: whether directly or indirectly, the main motivation for the bully is to physically, emotionally, socially, or psychologically injure their victim.
  2. Imbalance of power:  the bully uses their strength or control to manipulate their victim.
  3. Repeated: often this is not a one time incident, but a series of harmful incidents performed by the same individual or groups of individuals towards another individual or group of individuals.

Types of Bullying

  1. Physical
  2. Social
  3. Mental or Emotional
  4. Verbal

Bullying of these types occurs in several places: home, school, malls, on the street, etc.  Cyberbulling, bullying that takes place on the internet or through text messages, has come to the forefront of places where bullying takes place.


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Effects of Bullying

What are the effects of verbal bullying on kids?

Being bullied takes an emotional and physical toll on an individual.  These are just a few of the effects being bullied can do to the victim:

  • Turning to drugs or alcohol
  • Dropping out of school or quitting work
  • Increased stress and anxiety
  • Learned helplessness
  • Anger
  • Frustration
  • More likely to retaliate in aggressive manner
  • Suicide

Profile of a Bully Victim

Most vicitims have certain traits in common that could potentially make them a target for bullying:

  1. Low self-esteem
  2. Has few to no friends
  3. Bends gender norms
  4. Is seen as less popular
  5. Could suffer from depression or anxiety

This list does not mean that if an individual has these traits they will automatically be bullied nor does it mean that there is something wrong with the individual.

Statistics

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2007 School Crime Supplement to the National Crime Victimization Survey

Students between the ages of 12 and 18 were asked to respond to the question of whether they had been bullied at school and cyberbullied anywhere.  Results from this study reveal the following data:

  1. 32% of students responded that they had been bullied sometime during the 2007 school year.
    • 21% of these students stated they'd been made fun of
    • 18% of these students noted they'd had rumors spread about them
    • 11% of these students stated "they were pushed, shoved, tripped, or spit on" with 19% of these individual reporting being injured
    • 6% of these students stated they'd been threatened with harm
    • 5% of these students indicated they'd purposely been excluded from an activity
    • 4% of these students noted they'd been coerced into doing something against their will and threatened to have property destroyed or taken away.
  2. 79% of the students who'd been bullied reported that the incidents occurred in school.
  3. 36% of the bullied students reported the incident to an adult at the school